The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret.
The result ?
Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. Theirs is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time, anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is not enjoyedto the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel.
Does this describe you?
If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change your life!
What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off . A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%!
How?
By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how you react!
Let's use an example.
You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize them for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been to busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work.You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible.
As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee.How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time." Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs.
After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Your boss comments on how good of day you are having. Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret. If someone says something negative about you, do not be sponge.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you loose yourtemper?
Pound the steering wheel?
Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?
Why let the blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it! You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep or get irritated?
It will work out. Use your worrying- energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?
She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, etc.
Why get stressed out?
It will just make things worse. You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results...
Thursday, November 23, 2006
Shichida Methods... Otak Kanan - Teknik Jepun
Beberapa minggu lepas boss aku ada cakap kat aku yg dia antaq anak die 2 Thn pergi Sichida kelas...yakni kelas yg di uruskan oleh jepun melatih anak-anakbefikir menggunakan otak sebelah kanan. Otak sebelah kanan ni lebif effektif sebenarmya dari otak sebelah kiri tetapi kena practise sikitlah penggunaannya.
Kelas ni mahal nak mampus, kalau kelas tadika juanna yg aku nak masukkan tahun depan tu cost nye lebih tinggi dari cost kite satu semester kat ITM, kelas sichida ni satu semester aku rasa sama macam kos satu semester si Noni buat master....tapi boss aku ni atas kesedaran bahawa ramai sgt cine yang pergi kelas
tu utk ajar anak2 depa dan melayu cuma setengah kerat aje...dia pun bersetuju ngan niat ikhlasnye untuk ajar aku dan staff melayu yg lain.
Aku pun nak korang practisekan bende ni kat anak korang, sebab baru seminggu aku buat kat anak aku...dah nampak keberkesanannya.
1. Sewaktu anak nak tidur atau tidur-tidur ayam, cakap kat die sepenuh hati dan sejujurnya yang kita sayang kat dia, dia budak baik, dia anak soleh, dia budak kuat, tak sakit, dia budak pandai dsb. Sbb during tidur-tidur ayam ni otak kanan sedang bekerja, otak kiri dah tidur dah....Boleh gak practisekan kat husband ke,
tapi kena buat seikhlas hati...kalau tengah marah ..tak jadi. kalau anak korang tu dah tidur, ramas-ramas jari atau tangan dia, macam picitlah supaya dia kembali berada dalam tidur2 ayam punya situation. Aku buat kak nana sebab die bangun pagi lambat pas tu siap melalak-lalak lagi, aku cakap hari hari kat
dia, dia budak baik, dia suka pergi sekolah, dia budak sihat, dia nak bangun awal....sekarang 6.30 dah bukak mata termasuk sabtu n ahad...tu..kelemahan sikit lah..........
2. Start guna cards untuk ajar anak. Aku ajar nana ABC-Z guna card seminggu je sekarang dah kenal semua huruf dah siap boleh eja perkataan pendek-pendek. Buat card banyak-banyak dan tunjuk kat dia orang cepat-cepat..macam..a..b..c..d..e, insya Allah cepat die dapat sebab bila kita tunjuk kad laju-laju atau cepat-cepat otak kanan die bekerja keras untuk tangkap apa benda yang kite
tunjuk tu...kita boleh buat card 1,2,3, gambar-gambar...potonglah gambar kat mana-mana dsb....guna english jgn guna melayu........
3. Gerak kerja tangan adalah hasil dari otak kanan, so ajar anak korang main tanah liat, main water colour, melukis, gunting kertas, origami dsb. Memang le kite yang kene mengemas tapi takpe.........satu lagi cuba korang lukis gambar, contohnye rama2, tapi sebelah sahaja dan suruh die orang sambung lukis ikut apa
yg korang lukis tu kat sebelah lagi...ini pun dapat mengaktifkan penggunaan otak kanan....Korang tau kenapa cine, ngan jepun pandai-pandai....sebab depa makan guna chopstik...chopstik tu mengaktifkan kerja tangan and as well gerakkan otak
kanan.
4. Jgn marah-marah atau tengking anak........sebab depa boleh simpan semuanya dalam otak kiri.......kalau termarah depa, pi balik kat cara no 1 tadi, and mintak maaf kat die.....
5. Satu lagi develop they all punya imagination by start bercerita kat dieorang dan suruh depa sambung cerite tu, walaupun cerita tu memang lah merapu takpa.........kita pun bukan tak biasa merapu.......
6. Main teka-teki ngan they all, taruk satu barang dalam kotak tissue and suruh depa teka apa benda tu. First few times boleh bagi option macam....bagi tau colour, bunyi, lama-lama depa boleh develop six sence by concentrating depa boleh teka apa benda dlm kotak tissue tu........ni semua utk aktifkan otak sebelah kanan.
Tapi ingat.....semua game yg hangpa nak buat ngan dia tu cuma boleh buat setengah jam sehari..tak payah lama-lama. kalau lama-lama kang jadi cam Rajib...he...he..
Sebelum buat exercise ni, kena tarik nafas dalam-dalam and relaks...tak boleh buat time tengah nak masak ka, basuh kain ka tengok tv ka, tak jadi....Buat kena ikhlas, and merendah diri sikitlah bila dah terror ini semua satu cara yng Tuhan
lagi Maha Mengetahui kalau Dia izin anak kite nak pandai Alhamdulillah tapi kita kena berusaha, dan
bersyukur kalau dah berhasil sebab bila2 Dia boleh tarik balik..betui dak......Aku pun tengah try lagi ni...
p/s; kita yg dah tua tak berapa tua ni tak tau lah leh diamalkan ke idak.....buat para ibu bapa sesuailah ni kot......
Sumbangan : Itaarissa
Kelas ni mahal nak mampus, kalau kelas tadika juanna yg aku nak masukkan tahun depan tu cost nye lebih tinggi dari cost kite satu semester kat ITM, kelas sichida ni satu semester aku rasa sama macam kos satu semester si Noni buat master....tapi boss aku ni atas kesedaran bahawa ramai sgt cine yang pergi kelas
tu utk ajar anak2 depa dan melayu cuma setengah kerat aje...dia pun bersetuju ngan niat ikhlasnye untuk ajar aku dan staff melayu yg lain.
Aku pun nak korang practisekan bende ni kat anak korang, sebab baru seminggu aku buat kat anak aku...dah nampak keberkesanannya.
1. Sewaktu anak nak tidur atau tidur-tidur ayam, cakap kat die sepenuh hati dan sejujurnya yang kita sayang kat dia, dia budak baik, dia anak soleh, dia budak kuat, tak sakit, dia budak pandai dsb. Sbb during tidur-tidur ayam ni otak kanan sedang bekerja, otak kiri dah tidur dah....Boleh gak practisekan kat husband ke,
tapi kena buat seikhlas hati...kalau tengah marah ..tak jadi. kalau anak korang tu dah tidur, ramas-ramas jari atau tangan dia, macam picitlah supaya dia kembali berada dalam tidur2 ayam punya situation. Aku buat kak nana sebab die bangun pagi lambat pas tu siap melalak-lalak lagi, aku cakap hari hari kat
dia, dia budak baik, dia suka pergi sekolah, dia budak sihat, dia nak bangun awal....sekarang 6.30 dah bukak mata termasuk sabtu n ahad...tu..kelemahan sikit lah..........
2. Start guna cards untuk ajar anak. Aku ajar nana ABC-Z guna card seminggu je sekarang dah kenal semua huruf dah siap boleh eja perkataan pendek-pendek. Buat card banyak-banyak dan tunjuk kat dia orang cepat-cepat..macam..a..b..c..d..e, insya Allah cepat die dapat sebab bila kita tunjuk kad laju-laju atau cepat-cepat otak kanan die bekerja keras untuk tangkap apa benda yang kite
tunjuk tu...kita boleh buat card 1,2,3, gambar-gambar...potonglah gambar kat mana-mana dsb....guna english jgn guna melayu........
3. Gerak kerja tangan adalah hasil dari otak kanan, so ajar anak korang main tanah liat, main water colour, melukis, gunting kertas, origami dsb. Memang le kite yang kene mengemas tapi takpe.........satu lagi cuba korang lukis gambar, contohnye rama2, tapi sebelah sahaja dan suruh die orang sambung lukis ikut apa
yg korang lukis tu kat sebelah lagi...ini pun dapat mengaktifkan penggunaan otak kanan....Korang tau kenapa cine, ngan jepun pandai-pandai....sebab depa makan guna chopstik...chopstik tu mengaktifkan kerja tangan and as well gerakkan otak
kanan.
4. Jgn marah-marah atau tengking anak........sebab depa boleh simpan semuanya dalam otak kiri.......kalau termarah depa, pi balik kat cara no 1 tadi, and mintak maaf kat die.....
5. Satu lagi develop they all punya imagination by start bercerita kat dieorang dan suruh depa sambung cerite tu, walaupun cerita tu memang lah merapu takpa.........kita pun bukan tak biasa merapu.......
6. Main teka-teki ngan they all, taruk satu barang dalam kotak tissue and suruh depa teka apa benda tu. First few times boleh bagi option macam....bagi tau colour, bunyi, lama-lama depa boleh develop six sence by concentrating depa boleh teka apa benda dlm kotak tissue tu........ni semua utk aktifkan otak sebelah kanan.
Tapi ingat.....semua game yg hangpa nak buat ngan dia tu cuma boleh buat setengah jam sehari..tak payah lama-lama. kalau lama-lama kang jadi cam Rajib...he...he..
Sebelum buat exercise ni, kena tarik nafas dalam-dalam and relaks...tak boleh buat time tengah nak masak ka, basuh kain ka tengok tv ka, tak jadi....Buat kena ikhlas, and merendah diri sikitlah bila dah terror ini semua satu cara yng Tuhan
lagi Maha Mengetahui kalau Dia izin anak kite nak pandai Alhamdulillah tapi kita kena berusaha, dan
bersyukur kalau dah berhasil sebab bila2 Dia boleh tarik balik..betui dak......Aku pun tengah try lagi ni...
p/s; kita yg dah tua tak berapa tua ni tak tau lah leh diamalkan ke idak.....buat para ibu bapa sesuailah ni kot......
Sumbangan : Itaarissa
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